There are times in our lives when we relocate to a new city or a new college and want to start life afresh. Millions of plans run through our mind on are we going to settle in the new surroundings and make the most of this new opportunity. But when reality strikes, it is different than what we expected. This creates a lot of confusion within like becoming judgmental about the new atmosphere, feeling uncomfortable, at times feeling isolated, feeling of loneliness, unexpected fears of coping up crop up in our life. This is the time when one needs to calm down rather than allowing the negative thought process to take over. Below are a few points which can help you to overcome the unexpected reality:
- Don’t be judgmental: Yes, this is the first step to adjusting yourself in the new surroundings. One needs to stop being judgmental about the people, place and the atmosphere of the new place. To do this, stop comparing your past location with the new one. Every place is going to be different and the experiences will also be different. By comparing the two, you’re not allowing yourself to explore the positives that the new place has. Once we start judging people or places, our mind automatically starts rejecting to see any positives present. We are then focused on only pinpointing the shortcomings of the new place and people. So, the next time your mind starts judging and comparing, immediately take a deep breath and let this comparison go from your space.
- Acknowledge your feelings: When we try too hard to adjust in the new environment, we start imposing things on ourselves. And this is absolutely wrong because this piles up a lot of feelings and emotions within. For example, if you’re missing your set of old friends and the good times you had, instead of looking for replicating those moments again with new people, acknowledge the emotions and feelings you’re feeling within. Each person is going to be different and there may be chances that you will not be able to replicate the same experiences again. But when you try too hard, you will end up feeling like a failure. Rather, open yourself to creating new happy memories and acknowledge these new experiences and emotions too.
- Set realistic expectations: One of the most important steps to be followed is to set realistic expectations from yourself as well as from your new environment. This can happen only when you experience the new environment. Hence, setting up expectations before relocating can confuse your mind and eventually make you feel like you will be unable to cope up at this new place among new people who have a different attitude. Building up expectations should be a later job once you’re settled in the place. This will help you set realistic expectations from people and the place too making you feel mentally healthier.
- Be open to mingling with people: Finding new friends can definitely be a task, but at the same time mingling socially is required to understand the new set up better. Of course, you may find people having a different attitude and lifestyle. But this is absolutely fine. You don’t need to replicate them to be a part of them. You just need to live the way you would like. People look for your thoughts and feelings. And the more you’re honest about yourself, you will be able to attract like-minded people too. Creating new friends can definitely boost your confidence to cope up with the new set up in a positive manner. Be open to receiving help and guidance from your new friends.