Mother’s Day is just around and we all make our mothers feel special in our own unique
ways. But then there is also the time when we fight with them and the relationship is
strained. We kiss up and make up with them, but still we can feel the generation gap in our
relationship with them. No matter how positive our relationship is with our mother, but still
there are always ups and downs. There are things we want to share with them, but still this
isn’t possible because of our differences in thought patterns. But, the good news is here
being a few tips which can surely help you to improve your relationship with her. This
Mother’s Day don’t just gift her a materialistic possession, but your renewed and improved
Make the first Move: If you make the first move in sorting out things with her, then
it will make her feel special as well as loved. A mother is always full of love, just
waiting to see that in our eyes. Feel from within what is that you would like to
change in your relationship and then take the first move.
Communicate Openly: An open communication is the doorway to release all the
pent up emotions and also clear the misunderstanding. Ensure that the open
communication is not a harsh one, rather loving and the choice of words should also
be simple and very precise. Avoid getting into arguments, rather keep the
communication a discussion. This will help her understand your inner feelings.
Practice active listening: Whenever your mother is communicating with you, listen
to her. Even if you’re not agreeing, first hear her out and only then respond. Don’t
just listen to the sentences and words she is saying, rather understand the emotions
she is trying to convey. For example, if your mother is saying that you just want your
friends, then rather than being angry, understand that she actually wants to say that
you’re not giving her enough time.
Respond, don’t react: When you react, there is an array of negative emotions
flowing from both the ends. But when you respond, you’re open to listening and
understanding the unspoken emotions. Also, it helps you to understand your part of
the mistake easily and effortlessly.
Stop being in the past: One needs to leave the past and live in the present. Only
then can we open new avenues to have a beautiful relationship. We all have
arguments, but one needs to put an end to it. Repeating the past again and again
only increases the bitterness in the relationship as well as your heart. So, if you’re
harboring the past in your heart, then set yourself free today.
Explain her about your definition of individuality: We all have different definitions
of individuality even if we are related by blood. It is your right to build your own
individuality and it is the heart of your mother to protect you. Hence, there will be
differences and you need to respect them. Expecting them to accept immediately is
not possible. You need to give them time and space to understand it.
Avoid Sarcasm: If you dislike something about her, say it clearly rather than using
sarcasm. This is a kind of disrespect and not just mothers but no one should be put
on the grill of sarcasm. Express your feelings openly rather than hunting around the
Express your love: Any emotion kept hidden in the heart cannot be understood by
the other person until and unless we express it. We all love our mothers dearly, then
why do we wait to express it. Showing her your love will only increase her love
I am sure this Mother’s Day will surely be a special one for all of us. Let us use these handy
tips and make our relationship with her indeed special and unique.